Three days no word...DELETE!

In the industry I work in, we work to what we call Service Level Agreements or SLAs for short. An SLA is a commitment or agreement between two parties typically a provider and client. So why am I talking about SLAs on my blog, well a few months ago I was talking to yet another a guy on a dating app and I hadn’t heard from him in a few days, which is far from unusual. 

He eventually messaged me and apologised for the delay, and explained the he got 'caught up'. I told him not to worry because he was in luck and was just within his SLA, before I unmatched him. I’m not going to lie, I think he was a little stunned and asked me if I was serious. I had only initially meant this as a joke but after giving it some thought, I replied back YES.

Over the last few months, I had found myself getting increasingly frustrated with response times, and that would make me lose interest pretty sharpish. I am definitely not the treat them mean keep them keen kind of girl. In our generation the rules of engagement have changed, and people tend to dip in and out of your life like a yoyo, and I will take this opportunity to say that this just doesn’t apply to dating. My previous approach just wasn’t working for me, so what initially started out as joke started to form the blueprint for my rules, if you want to continue to engage with me. 

In my world if a guy doesn’t make contact for 3 days then that shit is over and that ship has sailed and it has left the dock without him. Obviously I know sometimes there are exceptions but they are very few and far between and I am now of  the mindset, if a guy really wants to talk to you, he’ll make it happen. After all the egg doesn't swim to the sperm, now think about that for a second...are you with me?

So once I get to that three day mark, I hit the DELETE  button just like that. So what if he had potential? If I think a guy has potential, I will send what I like to call a jokey warning message as a prompt, and if I still don’t hear back, well I hit DELETE.  If I do hear back and it happens again, this time no hesitation, I hit DELETE. Don’t get me wrong, I might be a little disappointed, but such as life, that proverbial ship has sailed.

So what happened to the guy who helped affirm the need for my SLAs? Well he messaged me back consistently for maybe a week or two, I could see the potential, but then I didn’t hear from him and it got to three day and as much as it pained me and true to the rules I hit DELETE, the end.